BEHAVIOR BREAKTHROUGHS

Hey there! I recently had the chance to chat with parents about managing their kids’ challenging behaviors, and I wanted to share some valuable insights with you. In this video, you’ll discover practical tips to help your little ones navigate transitions smoothly, follow instructions more easily, and develop better emotional regulation skills. Please take a look and let me know what you think!

As parents, understanding and addressing challenging behaviors is key to creating a more harmonious home environment. Here are some powerful strategies to help you transform your parenting journey. This is a brief summary of the Zoom I gave to parents at various international schools in Barcelona. Please watch the accompanying video for further detail and explanation.

Understanding Behavior

Behavior serves a purpose, whether it’s seeking attention, avoiding tasks, accessing something desirable, or seeking sensory stimulation. Identifying these functions is crucial for developing effective strategies.
Functions of Behavior:

• Attention-seeking: Interrupting conversations or acting out.
• Escape or avoidance: Procrastination or complaining to avoid tasks.
• Access to tangibles or activities: Tantrums for toys
• Sensory stimulation: Hand flapping or rocking

Effective Communication

When giving instructions, use clear and direct language to avoid confusion. Instead of “Can you come to the table?” say “It’s time for dinner. Please come to the table now.” Also, state instructions as “do’s” rather than “don’t’s.”

Managing Screen Time

Transitions from screen time can be challenging. Use clear communication and consistency. For example, say “It’s time for snack. The screen is all done” before turning it off. Avoid negotiating or offering distractions during meltdowns

The ABCs of Behavior

Understanding the Antecedent, Behavior, and Consequence helps analyze why behaviors occur and how they’re reinforced.

The Power of Consequences

Consequences come in three forms: reinforcement, punishment, and extinction. Reinforcement encourages desired behaviors, while punishment can have unintended consequences. Extinction involves removing reinforcement for undesired behaviors, which can lead to an extinction burst—a temporary increase in the behavior before it decreases.

Teaching Replacement Behaviors

Teach alternative behaviors that serve the same purpose as the problematic ones. For example, if a child hits for attention, teach them to say “excuse me.”

The Power of Parental Attention

Attention is a powerful tool. Focus on acknowledging positive behaviors to reinforce good habits. Notice and praise everyday behaviors like coming to brush teeth on time or using polite words.

Real-Life Examples

• Interrupting: Teach a child to write a note or use a silent signal instead of interrupting. Ignore interruptions unless urgent and praise appropriate behavior.
• Homework Procrastination: Implement a schedule and timer for focused work sessions. Praise timely completion and offer rewards for consistent effort.
• Bedtime Meltdowns: Use a bedtime routine chart and calmly guide the child back to bed without extra attention. Praise successful bedtimes and offer small rewards.

Conclusion

Parenting is about progress, not perfection. By applying these strategies consistently, you can create a more harmonious home environment. The time you invest now will save you countless hours of stress and frustration in the long run. Please feel free to contact me to discuss parenting strategies that will work for you!